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Blog 1 - Confidence:

Confidence entails the belief that the particular course of action you have taken is the right one, regardless of the repercussions that may come along with it. Simply put, it is belief in the power and ability of one’s self to do and accomplish things, even in the face of daunting odds. Confidence is a necessity in any attempt to achieve success, as it sets the right mental condition for overcoming various obstacles.

Sadly, so many people in life struggle to achieve it, even in the dating scene.
It’s no secret that women want a confident man, one who oozes self-esteem in everything he does, from the way he steps out on the block like the whole world should bow down to him, to how he handles his woman when getting intimate.

Long gone are the days of Diana King and the ‘Shy Guy’ fame, ladies these days are turned on by a man who knows himself, is aware of his dating capabilities and is not afraid to take charge of the relationship. It is therefore crucial that you go after that lady with an unrepentant sense of self-assuredness, the chances of you scoring her are way higher than those of being rejected.

So what to do once you realize that you don’t have confidence? The first thing, and almost always the ONLY thing to do is BE YOURSELF! Most people who have confidence issues while dating just can’t resist the temptation of going overboard in an attempt to please the one they are after. In doing this, they have to keep up with appearances at the expense of their happiness, and at times their wallets.

It is crucial that you do not change your lifestyle in order to please someone, strive and maintain your personality. If she truly is into you, then she will stay and put up with all your character traits, good or bad. If, however, you get grooving with her based on false representations, it will only be a matter of time before the mask you have is peeled back, and your true nature revealed. Nobody wants to be in such a situation! Always intensify your real persona, and like a light, you will effortlessly draw the right moth towards yourself.

Once you have mustered the courage to be yourself and you’re out approaching the ladies, strive to maintain eye contact when in conversation with them. It brings about an element of trustworthiness, since people’s eyes usually give away a lot about who they really are. Eye contact also shows the other party that you’re interested in whatever they have to say.

Another secret to boosting your confidence is in stepping up your wardrobe game. Try and dress to impress, without necessarily going over the top in terms of finance and fashion sense. There’s nothing more self-assuring than leaving the house and having ladies turn to look at how well you’re dressed. Get yourself a nice bottle of cologne and good aftershave that will exude a manly musk wherever you go. You definitely will begin attracting the attention of the opposite sex, and your manly ego will slowly begin to be elevated.

Once you have caught the attention of the ladies at the party or at that dinner, make sure you speak clearly and loudly. Do not lower your head when talking; instead look directly at whatever audience you have in front of you. Speaking loudly and coherently catches the attention of the ladies. Trust me, there’s nothing they love more than a man who can take command of a stage and express himself confidently. With the full attention of the lady you’re angling for, you may introduce playful touching, especially when the conversation is really getting deeper. Ladies love someone who can do it while retaining their confidence and self-assuredness, and also remaining appropriate. It helps break the tension and by and by, she will warm up towards your advances even more.

Try hard not to be a douche-bag, as this may ruin everything that you have been working so hard on, and deal a blow to the confidence you are trying to cultivate. Confident men are generally very easy-going and approachable, as it draws more people to them. If you are mean, chances are ladies will want nothing to do with you. Strive to be the cool, suave gentleman, even when some ladies are rude to you. Even when conversing, try not to be cocky and domineering. It’s a complete turn-off.

Last, remember confidence comes from within. Take it easy, relax and don’t forget to smile! Cheers!

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Blog 2 - Picking up women in a party:

There’s no universally acclaimed approach or procedure to picking up that sexy lady at a party; it requires lots of confidence and self-belief, and of course, lots of practice. The steps below, however, will come in handy if you have been getting problems attracting the hotties at a party, and you just can’t seem to get a grip of the process.

Dress the part!
Dressing the part simply means that you should look presentable enough for the day. If the party requires a specific dress code, make sure you adhere to it, so you don’t seem outlandish. Dressing well serves as a great confidence booster, and there’s nothing that the ladies love more than a well-dressed man, oozing self-assurance and walking with a spring in his step, ready to conquer the world.

Spend some time in front of the mirror; trim your beards and moustache. Use some cologne or a decent spray (you don’t need too much money for this, so that should not be an excuse) and trim your nails. Trust me, even you will feel good about yourself knowing that you look good. The rest will fall into place.

Get yourself a wingman:
A wingman is basically a friend who knows most of your character traits; your strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, etc. and as such, is able to help you navigate the hookup scene in the party. He or she should be someone who can quickly step in with fantastic suggestions when you have run out of ideas, or divert away unwanted attention, once you have settled on a pick. It gets even better if your wingman is on the ‘inside’, for example if he or she knows the lady you’re trying to pick up. They will warm up to you easily, courtesy of your mutual friend.

Make her smile:
Once you have scanned the crowd and chosen the one who pleases you the most, try striking up a conversation. Usually, an appropriate pick up line would do, or a nice compliment that gets her smiling. Should you get to this point, the rest of the night is likely to be a smooth sail. Try and steer the conversation towards topics that you see are of interest her, and keep things interesting by throwing in jokes once in a while. Show interest in whatever she says, maintain eye contact and appreciate her sentiments to show you’re really into her

Don’t be clingy:
It’s a party, so it means that people are allowed to socialize freely without any restrictions. Clinging on to her cuts a picture of desperation, that may ruin your chances of leaving with her at the end of the night. Allow her to mingle with other people, while you do the same. Who knows? You may end up bagging an even hotter prospect while at it. Do not limit yourself, therefore, as your luck might come from the most unexpected quarters. Keep your options open and you will surely not be disappointed .

Play party games:
Party games! Who doesn’t love them? They’re fun and a totally sexy way to get to know the lady you are with. You may start off with games like spin-the-bottle and truth or dare are a good way to get people to loosen up and enjoy each other’s company, and should the chance to get a dare from a lady you fancy, embrace it with all your wits. Manipulate it to your favor and get things going with them from then on. As the night progresses and the drinks keep flowing, you may get into more daring games like strip poker, just make sure you have the most winning hands though!

Suggest a private party:
After drinking and dancing the night away, you will sure have an idea of how things are progressing, and whether you will get lucky. Pull her gently to yourself and whisper softly in her ear whether she would like to take the party somewhere else, either to another bar or maybe to your place. If she’s into your vibe, you will most likely leave arm in arm. The rest, as they say, is history…and you will have closed the night on a high note.

Don’t fear rejection:
As indicated earlier, there’s no exact winning formula for picking up girls at a party, it requires a mix of confidence, self-esteem and a winning mentality. It goes therefore, that winners don’t quit, and quitters don’t win. The first two or three ladies you hit on may not give in, but that should not leave you devastated. Keep your head high and your game on point, and you will soon hit the jackpot!

Blog 3 - Great pickup lines:

Pick up lines have been helping guys get laid worldwide, for the longest time possible. A good pick-up line employs a basic element of seduction; getting the lady to know that you’re interested in her. Although this seems quite easy, the situation or the circumstances prevailing upon your meeting or getting to know each other may not allow you to express interest. This is where a pick up line comes in; it helps break the ice while letting her know upfront that you’re into her. What better way to accomplish the two than by using a pickup line? You’re right…NONE.

Although pick-up lines are quite an audacious way of cutting through the bullshit and straight to the chase, there’s one very important prerequisite, confidence. You have to mean everything that you say, otherwise the lady you’re trying to hook up with will take you for a joke, and you’ll probably be left nursing a boner in vain. Nobody wants to end up like that. When saying your lines, you may want to maintain eye contact to send the message home. Smile and keep up like you have done nothing out of the ordinary, even in situations where they are giving you crap over it. Be very creative even as you go about it; you may be asked, for example, “Do you use this on every girl?” divert her attention while pressing her buttons; compliment her and say, “Why would I use it on every girl when I could use it on the hottest girl ever…you?” . You are most likely to elicit a smile and just like that, her guard will be lowered.

When using pick-up lines, therefore, the most important thing is to be cool and interesting. Do not use stale, cliché lines that you may have found online or from cheesy books like “100 Pick-up Lines That Will Surely Get You Laid”. Creativity is required, and the easiest way to apply creativity is by taking advantage of the situation, for example the cold weather to take her out for coffee, the heat to go swimming, or stuff like that. Your ability to manipulate the circumstances at hand into your winning strategy is what will ensure your pick-up lines make her blush or laugh out loud in acknowledgement. Relax and think out of the box, and she will never know what hit her.

Below are a few pick-up lines gleaned from various sources, which worked successfully for those who used them on girls. You have to acknowledge that this does not mean they will work automatically for you, but they should give you an insight on how to apply creativity to come up with your own lines too.

“There are 8 planets in the universe, but only 7 after I destroy Uranus”

“Are you from the Post Office? Because I can’t help but notice you’re checking out my package”

“Can you touch me? I wanna tell my my friends I was touched by an angel”

“I know where they give out free drinks [where?] my house”

“You wanna know what’s big? [awkward pause] my house,weirdo!”

“Aside from being sexy, what else do you do for a living?”

“I heard you’re good at algebra. Can you replace my X without asking Y?”

“My mom thinks I’m gay, can you help me prove her wrong?”

Playing gay actually is quite a chick magnet. I know of a friend who used this weird pick up line and he totally got laid, even though he had to act gay for a while.

“I’m gay and it’s actually so great. [Really?] Yeah, do you wanna know how it feels like? [Sure!]Can I put my dick in your ass?”

And just like that, he got laid. This is because he took advantage of the girl’s apparent liking for gay men to get into her pants. Sometimes also, you should not be afraid of being overly dirty and straight to the point, you may find that the girl is a bigger pervert than you are, and things will be much easier then, of course!

“What’s the difference between me and my couch? [One’s more fun to sit on than the other] Sort of, the real difference is that my couch pulls out. [Lol you’re a naughty boy] Lemme smash. [Straight to the point, I like it. Here’s my number…]”

“Cuddling triggers the same neurological reaction as taking painkillers. [Dicks do too]”

Have fun crafting out your pick up lines!